Ep 92: Mode One with Alan Roger Currie
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Ep 92: Mode One with Alan Roger Currie
Episode 92: Show Notes
Disclaimer: This episode contains adult language and sexually explicit conversation. It is not suitable for children and, if you are especially sensitive to topics related to heterosexual dating dynamics, we recommend that you skip this episode as well.
While today’s guest takes an approach that is unconventional and perhaps even shocking, his story follows a similar formula to many of the guests that you are used to hearing from on At The End of the Tunnel. His name is Alan Roger Currie and, in this episode, you’ll learn about the leaps of faith he had to take in order to pursue his true calling.
Alan is a dating coach and the author of several books about his unique philosophy known as Mode One, which centers around radical honesty from the start. Straightforward communication is at the core of today’s conversation with Alan, who shares his sometimes explicit views on casual sex and relationships and tells the story behind how he developed his Mode One approach before, ultimately, making it his career.
Tuning in, you’ll learn how an adult film titled Talk Dirty to Me changed Alan’s perspective on the dynamics between men and women, how his brother encouraged him to write a book and follow his calling, and how you can implement the Mode One approach in all aspects of your life, from your sexual relationships to the workplace and even your friendships.
We also dive into the definition of Mode One, the five archetypes, and what women can take away from Alan’s philosophy on dating, as well as the value of embracing rejection and so much more! Tune in today for an occasionally X-rated but altogether fascinating discussion with professional dating coach, Alan Roger Currie!
Key Points From This Episode:
Alan shares his favorite activity as a child: performing imaginary shows with his GI Joe dolls.
The influence that The Jackson Five had on Alan’s interest in the entertainment industry.
Find out how his relationships with women evolved after his senior year in high school.
How an adult film changed Alan’s perspective on the dynamics between men and women.
Alan shares his views on sexual duplicity and some insight from a conversation he had about sex and relationships with three women in college.
Hear about the first few iterations of Alan’s straightforward approach that became Mode One.
The story of an interaction he had with one of his mother’s former students that inspired him to put Mode One on paper for the first time.
Defining the Mode One Approach: verbally bold, straightforward honesty with women.
Some of the challenges Alan encountered while developing the Mode One approach.
Learn more about his career aspirations prior to becoming a dating coach and author.
How Alan’s brother persistently encouraged him to write a book on the Mode One approach.
The influence that the film, Hitch, had on Alan’s decision to become a dating coach.
How he has implemented Mode One elsewhere, from the workplace to his friendships.
The five archetypes, according to Alan: reciprocators, rejectors, wholesome pretenders, erotic hypocrites, and manipulative time wasters.
Where the phrase ‘no free attention’ came from (which became the title of one of his books).
An interaction Alan had with a lawyer in Chicago that led to his first speaking engagement.
Alan’s focus on consent and why he never encourages the use of drugs or alcohol.
The three variations of Mode One: Mode 1.5, standard Mode One, and Mode One Hardcore.
What women can take away from this approach and why Alan says he’s not a pickup artist.
Some of the biggest misconceptions about his mission and the value of embracing rejection.
Where you can learn more about Alan and gain access to his coaching services.
Tweetables:
“[My brother] essentially said, ‘This would never work in real life.' Well, those would be [the] infamous last words, because I proved him wrong.” — @AlanRogerCurrie [0:17:48]
“One of the reasons I [wanted] to be Mode One, even though I did look at identifying a woman who wanted to have sex with me as the frosting on the cake, but the cake itself was I wanted to identify the women who were not interested in having sex with me.” — @AlanRogerCurrie [0:35:50]
“Slowly but surely, I start gaining more notoriety in what's now known as the manosphere.” — @AlanRogerCurrie [0:57:18]
“With my relationships with some close friends, close male friends, family members, I became more outspoken and straight to the point. Sometimes, that led to bruised egos and hurt feelings but, in the long run, it was to their benefit.” — @AlanRogerCurrie [1:03:02]
“I only believe in having sex with women who have fully consented to me having sex with them and they're fully enthusiastic about me having sex with them. I'm not trying to trick a woman into having sex, coerce a woman into having sex. None of that.” — @AlanRogerCurrie [1:19:15]
“My mission is to send out the message to men and women that you don't have to tell members of the opposite sex blatant lies or engage them in manipulative head games in order to have a satisfying relationship [with them].” — @AlanRogerCurrie [1:29:37]
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